People tend to go about planning all wrong. For some of us, making plans is like trying to bake a cake by putting an empty form in the oven. That’s not how you do it. In order to have a beautiful and delicious cake, you have to know all sorts of things. Like what do you feel like having, what the occasion is, what ingredients you need, and if you have them or do you have to prep anything, go shopping and so on.
Same with planning. You don’t need anybody’s approval really. The most important thing is for you to KNOW.
Know your VISION.
And while it is not easy, it surely is SIMPLE. You just need to ask yourself a couple of questions:
- who do you want to be in x years? – but more like at the peak of your life (you’re probably not gonna be a ballerina, but who’s to tell you you can’t do it as a hobby??)
- what life do you want to live? (family life/ traveling without strings attached etc)
- what are the virtues that are so crucial for you that you base your life on? (You might be a religious person or you have a mission of helping others or you know you want your life to be with people and so on.)
- what is it that you don’t want for your life? (working for somebody for instance/working till you’re 70, having an office job/having kids/being financially dependent on someone and so on)
- what you’re good at?
- what do you love?
- what does the world need?
- what people are willing to pay you for? (those last 4 points come from the concept called IKIGAI. A Japanese concept about finding your goal in life. You can read more about it here:
You can give it some time to come up with your concept. Remember it doesn’t happen overnight, but do start, do give it some time for brainstorm to start uncovering YOUR vision. You can always tweak it, add something, remove something. But deep down inside you know what your vision is, you just need to give it a silhouette.
Once you know your vision, you’re almost home. Because one of the biggest mistakes people make is making random plans. Based on nothing. Once you have solid foundations, you’re halfway there.
Here are the usual mistakes one can make when going about making a plan:
- plan something that is not based on your overall vision
- “plan” – that is understood as “wish”. Plans will not come true by themselves. There is this great saying that dreams written down and scheduled become plans. And these are realistic.
- having a plan without actionable steps. It’s great if you want to for example write a book. But you will not do it overnight. You need to make a daily appointment with yourself to sit at your desk regularly to actually produce words that are good enough. And you need to have this concept in your head every single day, otherwise, you will forget. Because that’s what happens to our “plans” that are not scheduled.
Your goals need to have solid foundations.
So the next step after you’ve got your vision, is planning your goals. Let’s say you want to live your life in Italy, enjoying the sun, the wine and the climate. You want to be reelancing as a writer, or writing your own book. With your family of 5. Financially independent, location independent, surrounded by people – this is your vision. If so – your goals would be:
- to have a happy family
- to move to Italy
- to learn Italian
- to have clients willing to pay you for your writing
And those goals may feel overwhelming and too difficult to tackle. That is precisely why you need to divide them into tasks. The smaller the better. Like with learning Italian. The tasks for this goal could look like this:
- find a proper language course,
- buy the books and download the apps,
- make a commitment to pass the first exam by the end of the next 6 months,
- set a reminder to actually study every single day apart from the classes you take.
This is actionable and totally doable once you know you’re moving towards your vision that is enjoying that Italian life. Even if you don’t feel like going through the grammar this mundane Tuesday, you will do it the next day and the next, because this is not some random thing you decided to try. It actually leads you to live your life to the fullest.
Last but not least.
One thing that is as important as planning is evaluating the plans you had before. It’s crucial that you recognize what you managed to accomplish and where you failed. Not to be judgmental, not to use it as a reason for self-hate, but to get smarter about your next goals. Ask yourself some valid questions about what went wrong and use this knowledge to help yourself in the future.
Some final points to keep in mind.
- You are not a robot. Even with solid amounts of motivation resulting from you following your vision, you may have worse days. And it’s ok. As long as you keep moving towards what you chose for yourself.
- It is ok to change your mind. You may reevaluate some of the goals you have. Because the circumstances changed, because you changed – it’s ok too. The key thing is to keep the dialogue with yourself open. You can then adjust whatever is going on in your life accordingly.
- It may help you enormously to have some support. Like a group that’s focused around the same goal (say – Italian language class;) or a person with whom you keep each other accountable. It’s really helpful to have somebody with a similar mindset that you’re able to talk to when needed.
That’s it! I planned this post to be just the side notes to the podcast, but it turned out a bit longer. Anyway – it really is more like a sketch of this VAST subject of planning and envisioning. Let me know if you want more episodes/posts on this subject.
In the meantime – stay focused on your visions:) all the best in the 2020!