What is a Highly Sensitive Person? What does it even mean to be one?
And why some people call it a super power?
One of the most accurate metaphors describing how a Highly Sensitive Person might feel in their worst nightmare would be as follows:
One word. OVERWHELMED.
Of course this metaphor is meant to be way too much. Only for you to visualize how it could be, given the worst case scenario. Also – MOST of us would feel overwhelmed with their kids crying, in the airport, tired. But maybe not all of us would have the sun-burnt skin and hear the ringing in our ears from all the noise…
All in all – what we need to remember is that we’re not talking about a disorder here. If by reading this you’ll find out you might be an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) – don’t worry. It’s not an illness. You probably will worry a little, because it’s not easy to live in such an overstimulated world being an HSP. And that is why my next article will be about some proven ways to make it easier when you know what you know.
Also – this text is about neither introverts nor shy people. They are often confused with HSPs. Some interesting facts before we start:
– it’s said that ca 30% of HSPs are actually extroverts,
– being shy is learned and being an HSP is innate,
– only some HSPs are empaths.
The data I found estimate that around 15 to 20% of people reading this text will find it to be addressed directly to them, so let’s start. Take a deep breath and read the sentences below. Try and answer if you recognize yourself here:
30 signs that might mean you are a Highly Sensitive Person.
– Your senses are heightened. You’re very sensitive to sudden or loud noises, bright light, strong smells. Things like loud music, the smell of a burning grill, traffic noise, disco lights, even the flushing toilet might startle or irritate you.
– You will usually get overwhelmed in crowds.
– You may experience misophonia. That feeling you get when you nearly explode in reaction to somebody’s chewing or munching near you…
– You react to the fabric your clothes are made of. You find yourself cutting off the inner labels, you never wear something even slightly itchy. You’d rather look worse than feel uncomfortable.
– You have low tolerance to the physical discomfort.
– Similarly, your pain level tend to be extremely low.
– You may experience a lot of tension in your life, that might manifest as frequent headaches.
– You can’t stand any kind of violence. You might be the one avoiding brutal scenes in the movies. Turning your head away, closing your eyes in the movie theater when you’re exposed to them anyway.
– Your aversion towards violence combined with your empathy may mean you support some humanitarian, minority or animal causes. You feel deeply moved with what’s going on in the world.
– You may also work in the area of helping others.
– You think a lot – your inner world is reach and dynamic. You contemplate the existential topics, you keep asking the big questions. You like to learn about what you feel passionate about.
– You tend to have a lot of ideas and you’re usually very creative.
– You may not be as emphathetic as an empath would be, but you’re great at reading the room. It will inevitably overwhelm you a lot as well.
– You are often a living lie detector. You get all the subtle changes in one’s face when they lie. All because you’re so perceptive.
– When overstimulated, you feel the need to withdraw to your comfort zone. It’s a place where you can be alone without all the stimuli and other people. You need to recharge after feeling exhausted. You seek the calming ways to soothe yourself.
– You choose to surround yourself with beautiful calming things. You pay attention to details.
– Music calms you immensely. You may have a couple of playlists for those bad moments.
– You like doing things alone. You usually find it peaceful and hence easier to focus. You may, at times, choose to work alone and also rest alone. You can read, create or contemplate art and/or nature.
– You’re often moved by the beauty of things. It may feel surprising to you when other people are not.
– There’s too much stimuli around you on an everyday basis. You need to withdraw to be alone, to recharge and recuperate.
– The stimuli is also closer than you think. You react strongly to the changing levels of sugar in your blood. For you – hungry usually equals – angry. Or at least irritated.
– It also means you are very sensitive to caffeine and/or alcohol. (And candy. And coke. You get the gist;))
– Speaking of “angry”. Angry often equals – troubles. You don’t like conflict and confrontation. All because you get overwhelmed with the tension.
– You tend to do your best when working on something. To the point of perfectionism. That may often equal procrastination or burnout.
– You easily get irritated, because you react to all those little things.
– You may have heard you were shy or anxious as a child, or an introvert later on.
Below you’ll find a great IG profile on Highly Sensitive People and one of their last posts:
I guess these are the most obvious ones.
If reading this all you could say was – “how did she get my journal???” That might be a hint;)
If, on the other hand, only a handful felt somewhat familiar – you may simply be a sensitive person at times. In fact we all experience some of the reactions mention above from time to time. It’s completely obvious. It’s only when you feel it’s happening constantly, and that it perfectly describes you – you might be a Highly Sensitive Person.
One more thing to remember is that some of us can probably put ourselves on a spectrum. ‘From zero to intense’. Nearly zero will be if those symptoms apply to you but they don’t influence your life A LOT. The more you notice them every day, the more they make you strategize your life, the more intense kind of an HSP you are.
Even so, there’s nothing to worry about. There’s no right or wrong outcome. Remember we are not talking about an illness or disorder. 15-20% of the people are recognized as Highly Sensitive People – it is a trait we may or may not have.
Of course, while we KNOW it’s normal – it may not FEEL normal or easy for a person going through it. Especially that HSP are often misunderstood and labeled as difficult, too sensitive, fragile.
It gets SO MUCH easier once you know what’s going on and you connect the dots. When you learn how to take care of yourself, when you know what you need to avoid and what to work on – you will feel better.
And that’s exactly what my next article will be about: ways to help yourself when you’re a Highly Sensitive Person. OR when your CHILD is a Highly Sensitive Person.
I hope it was helpful. Here you can find a PART II – an HSP survival guide.
Feel free to share this with a friend you might have thought of when reading ♡