Like some of you know I am a psychotherapist and with some of my clients, I use the online video conferencing tools. This form of therapy is known as teletherapy.

I sometimes write about what I do on IG and every now and then I get some questions about how it actually works. I thought that instead of replying to DMs on Instagram I should write a proper text here. So here it is – a text about teletherapy = psychotherapy online.


What is teletherapy?


Online psychotherapy itself is still uncharted territory in this digital era of ours. Those who go through the process can easily tell all the pros and cons. On the other hand, those who’ve never been to ’teletherapy’ couldn’t know where to start and if it’s even worth it. So let me tell you about it a little more. First of all, we use the term ‘teletherapy’ to describe the form of psychotherapy that will be conducted over the video call. Be it Zoom or FaceTime Skype or some other app that enables video calls. You will experience the same setting, the same techniques and process as in a session you’d have in an office. There are some differences and I’ll get to them in a moment.


Let’s talk about therapy in general.


It’s safe to say that psychotherapy, in general, might still be somewhat a mystery for some. It can be thought of differently in different countries and cultures. All in all though – psychotherapy – be it online or in an office – is all about taking care of your own mental health and your personal growth. Some people are more accustomed to this idea while others might still not see much point in talking to a stranger about what’s bothering them.


How to find a good therapist?


The first thing to think of when you look for psychotherapy online – is to make sure your therapist is well educated in the area of mental health. They should hold a valid certificate or a license – depending on the country they received their credentials. Different countries have different rules and regulations, sometimes this profession is not regulated at all. The rule of thumb is to seek the help of those who are qualified to do so. If anything goes wrong you then have access to further steps concerning any misconduct or other. Not that it would happen often with a mental health profession – but it’s crucial to have this option available.

So when you browse through the therapists’ websites, you should be able to find links to all the institutions that have granted them their credentials. Sometimes, there will be online lists of certified psychotherapists where you can look up the person you consider working with. 

Some countries despite not having this profession fully regulated will recognize certified psychotherapists and your mandatory/premium insurance might cover all or part of the cost of your sessions.

Make sure your psychotherapist is undergoing supervision – which is a process all therapists should be engaged in. It’s talking their work through with experienced colleagues. 


What is modality?


Aside from that – there is also a matter of modality. Which is the theory/school of thought the therapist was educated in. Of course, this is not something specific for online therapy (teletherapy), but when you’re browsing through those websites you might as well check this one thing. You can make sure whether this approach is something you feel comfortable with. Not all approaches have to do with understanding the past and your childhood, for some it’s necessary to only focus on the present. Some approaches work mostly on symptoms – some – uncover the underlying cause. Some therapists will give you ‘homework’, some will want you to be ‘here and now’ in understanding what’s going on and how what you think impacts what you feel and so on. Make your research, ask people who know more and decide what modality feels right for you.


Modalities influence what that happens throughout therapy, how the therapy is conducted. The whole range of methods and techniques used in the process, as well as interpretation, setting, length of the session or the number of them, originate in the school of thought the therapist is educated in. They can also work in an integrative way – using two or more modalities. 


An online meeting. What, where, how?


When you’ve found a certified, well educated mental health professional – an online formula should then be a full quality therapeutic process. Because of the medium used (internet), there are some specifics that make it a slightly different experience you’d get in a regular office-based session.

I’d say the whole process seems absolutely comparable. I’ve had clients who transferred to an online process from an office setting where they would come once or twice a week and see me in person. I’ve also had those who have already been consulted online. Let me tell you a bit how the whole process looks from beginning to end.


The logistics of online consultation.


When you want to set up your first appointment you will usually use an online form or call the person you’d like to work with. There will be information on the site. That first meeting is called a consultation. It may last somewhere between 1 and 3 meetings and is necessary to assess what the matter is, what kind of help the person needs and if the therapist and the client are compatible.

It’s a time for the therapist to be able to diagnose if the problem the patient/client is experiencing is in the scope of their expertise. I, for example, don’t work with substance abuse. If a person reveals they have severe problems in this area I will refer them to some other specialist. The consultation also helps to clarify the problem the client is sometimes not aware of him/herself.  It is also a time for the patient to see if they feel they can trust the therapist if they feel comfortable talking about conflicting, often intimate issues with them. And so this whole process takes place online – using a video call. I use Zoom as it’s one of the best in the category – it’s safe – above all.


By the end of the consultation, the therapist and the client agree on the scope of the help and the length of the therapy, as well as details of payments, the cancellation policy, insurance details – if needed – and so on. We call it – the contract.


As you can see – so far the whole process is basically the same as with the appointment you would have in an office.


What’s different is if you go to a physical office – you’d be there a couple of minutes before your scheduled time, and the therapist would simply invite you in when the time came.

With online therapy, you as a patient call the therapist at the scheduled time. If you’re using Zoom – you go to your virtual meeting room and at the scheduled time your therapist comes in to welcome you.


The session.


The biggest difference is about the session itself. In an office you get to see each other in person – the whole person – which is pretty obvious. In an online meeting, it’s usually the waist-up frame. Otherwise, you’d get a tiny person on the screen, and you don’t want that.

You will also need a stable wifi connection to be able to have a high-quality audio and video image. All so that the mimics, the moments of silence, the tears, the sighs – can be noticed, interpreted and understood better.

The default camera and microphone you have on your computer or a tablet are enough.

And that’s it – you’re all set.


The things to pay attention to.


One thing from the logistics spectrum is for sure the wifi problems. Rarely, but it happens the client calls with the connection so slow that it’s virtually impossible to hold a real conversation. Once or twice my own internet provider had some technical issues and I had to reschedule a couple of sessions.

Something I had to touch on a couple of times with my clients/ patients – was the rules and boundaries that otherwise don’t often need much explaining. There was a time for example when a patient called me wearing her pyjamas, with wet hair – straight out of the shower. This would never happen in an office, but somehow it seemed appropriate to her – given the flexibility of the setting.

Some other time another patient thought she’d use the time for the session to have lunch.


Of course, these are just examples that we still use and integrate within the material of the therapy – to understand and work with it. 


Who is it for?


This is the question that is as frequent as the question about what is depression. “Who can benefit from an online therapy process?”.

My answer is – pretty much everyone who needs this kind of flexibility.

I’ve worked with clients/patients who:

-are so-called – ‘digital nomads’,

-expats not finding local psychotherapists speaking their language,

-very (VERY) frequent travelers,

-living in a city/country with psychotherapy services not available easily,

-people with an extremely busy schedule. 

-people with extreme cases of anxiety or other mental disorders that make it difficult for them to leave the house.


I guess that is it. As you can see – there are differences between an office and an online setting. All in all, it really is pretty comparable when it comes to results.

If you feel I haven’t touched on something that you think is important – let me know in the comments.

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